tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9026750446842946390.post7266763691958460410..comments2023-05-18T03:34:13.887-06:00Comments on Releasing Jessie: Pushing Boundariesjessiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06399613921768190064noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9026750446842946390.post-40319212065226201692012-06-26T12:16:21.480-06:002012-06-26T12:16:21.480-06:00Everyone has the right to say no. Children (and ba...Everyone has the right to say no. Children (and babies too) are people, albeit small ones, with feelings and needs that need to be respected.<br /><br />No means no. Period. <br /><br />Keep protecting those babies, Jessie. You're doing a good job. They need you to be their protector and their biggest advocate. When they are frightened, you (and your husband) are the people who need to be there soothing them. When they are being bullied, you can teach them how to fight back. You can show them that no means no, that no one can force them to do something they aren't comfortable with.<br /><br />We're not talking about manners here. We're talking about their right to having personal space, that no one is allowed to invade.Jonsihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17517677634712242866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9026750446842946390.post-7205738934620101982012-06-07T10:52:30.832-06:002012-06-07T10:52:30.832-06:00Thanks Kara, I think a lot of the time people thi...Thanks Kara, I think a lot of the time people think I'm just being a bitch. And I know so many people that children giving hugs, etc. is just teaching them bonding, respect, how to treat others. But I just can't shake the feeling that it's wrong. I've never seen a kid who hasn't given a hug to someone they really like and have an affection for...that's what kids do. So, if the kid isn't doing it, there is a reason for it. And I think it does send messages that prime a child for pedophilia. Kids can be respectful and polite and learn social norms without feeling that adults can do whatever they want with them.jessiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06399613921768190064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9026750446842946390.post-15388797131000694442012-06-07T02:02:48.960-06:002012-06-07T02:02:48.960-06:00I so wanted to stand up and start clapping in agre...I so wanted to stand up and start clapping in agreement when I read this post. I feel very strongly about the issue of making children give physical affection to people just to be polite, it is SOOO wrong! Like paving the way for pedophile, it's probably pot luck that we didn't all get abused having to follow that kind of policy. So fake too, having to give a hug to someone you don't even know, so you learn that 1) your feelings don't count and 2) you have to be a hypocrite to fit in, what a message to teach to a child... You are doing an amazing job with your kids, standing up to all these ingrained attitudes takes a lot of courage. Hugs.Karahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14470007362954479373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9026750446842946390.post-905963249680521072012-06-06T20:14:20.505-06:002012-06-06T20:14:20.505-06:00LOL!LOL!Cassandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15946844298660263710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9026750446842946390.post-76438890319507581522012-06-06T16:47:24.273-06:002012-06-06T16:47:24.273-06:00Dang, I hate all of those things too. I hate it wh...Dang, I hate all of those things too. I hate it when adults say "Come give me a hug!" like the kid is some kind of robot and like they deserve some kind of hug just cause they're adults. Stupid.<br />The knowing smile and the labeling, yeah, it's true. They just want to put a label on you and control you and act like they know shit they don't. My mom did the same thing. "I'm just like her" or "I'm just like dad", blah blah blah this, blah blah blah that. Just cause she likes acting like she has some kind of all powerful secret knowledge that only the all-powerful she the mom knows. HAH. Bullshit! She don't know shit about shit!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com